We had our first foster care class today, and it was good. I think it was really good for Shawn. All these men that were there, were really caring and nurturing, and Shawn got involved with them in discussions. I think that his dad was an alcohalic meant that he didn't get that kind of parenting growing up. Not to mention that I have told him that with the daycare kids, he has to be their role model too. Lots of those kids don't see a dad. Those kids are sometimes at our house 12 hours a day! He was always good with our kids... and Janai. But I think this class is helping him to see that his attitude is what gives the kids THEIR attitude when they grow up. How they become parents.
The fact that I have been saying this for years didn't matter. But because other men. Men that looked like men. Not weak looking men, but people in the community that Shawn would respect voiced their opinions and were very nurturing, I think something clicked.
Lets just hope that it stays like that.
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Having noticed the same trend with my own husband (he'd rather take advice from other men), I totally understand:
-the frustration that sometimes you are right and he might not be able to hear that truth from you
-the joy that he is surrounded by men who are challenging him through their words and example, and that he respects those men
This is awesome -- and I hope it stays that way, too!
Lisa
http://sunshinegirlonarainyday.blogspot.com/
Hooray for moving! Hopefully everything will go smoothly. :)
I'm glad something finally clicked with Shawn. That's great. :)
Well, you know how men are! Glad things are moving along!
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