maybe something bad happened so you could learn from it and help someone else, amounting to something good, even if it wasn't good for only you. maybe it would have been much worse, you don't know, maybe that WAS the good. who is to say it is good or bad or why and did god or satan do this? maybe you did it yourself?
Emerald died so someone else could learn a lesson? Seems kind of strange to me. Any god that would sacrifice my child, who didn't want to go, for the greater good, just isn't a god I want to worship. I really find some of these things just too simplistic. Perhaps they work in regards to little things in life, something you wouldn't dwell on trying to understand and these words give a "quick fix." But for me, they don't work at all. It isn't comforting to me to know that perhaps "God" took my child to help someone else learn a lesson. In fact, the idea draws fear in me.
Then there is..
the argument of the riddle of Epicurus:
Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent.
Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent.
Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil?
Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?
This makes a lot of sense to me. A lot more sense than thinking that God is a going to strike my child down to help someone else learn to do what they should.
Personally, I think that the power lies within us. If "god" is in everything, then essentially we ARE god. If god created both good and evil, if god created satan (if you believe in that) then we are ALL god.
Sigh. (I do this a lot)
Still thinking...
2 comments:
I do not believe in god (the institutionalised form of) but in a high power, i believe that we have the power to change almost every thing, I do not believe you lose was for the greater good. I have a daughter my self and I if any thing will leave you site to day appreciate my little girl that much more, throw you loss it will make people realize how perishes life is, and how fragile it can be, I wish you the best throw the hard time and home over time you will find the answers you search for.
There are certain life situations where people feel compelled to speak up and offer their opinions, sometimes in a not-so-nice way.
For me, it started before Steven was born. We were married 6 years before Steven arrived, people would ask me when we were planning to have children.
It's such a personal question, and one that I didn't mind coming from people I knew well, but complete strangers would ask sometimes, and once I answered that my hubby was impotent, the point being to embarass the person asking to illustrate their impropriety.
Steven had a cleft palate and medical problems. He didn't eat and lost weight after he was born, I was overwhelmed beyond description, and everyone felt compelled to give me their take on what I should be doing.
A few months after he was born, I realized that the people giving me advice didn't have a clue and I learned to ignore them. This stupid lactation consultant used to come to my house and told me she'd seen a bunch of moms successfully nurse cleft palate babies, and I tried faithfully for 6 weeks.
But he just plain couldn't get suction, and I felt liberated the day I realized that specialist or not, this woman didn't have a clue and I knew more than she did.
The death of a child is one of those times that people feel compelled to offer advice. But the death of a child is a devastating concept, not only to the parents of the child, but to everyone, it goes against the natural order of things.
Part of what people say is an attempt to comfort themselves, they'd like a nice pat answer and a thought to hold in their heads that will make them feel like things are still right with the world.
These people don't have to live with the constant absence of someone who should still be there, they see the pain and they don't want to hurt either.
I think the best thing to say when you don't have something great to offer is probably just an "I'm sorry, I can identify with how you're feeling, can I help in some way?" If they live nearby they should stop by and offer friendship and support.
I don't have anything profound to offer you, except that I do believe that underneath everything, there is some method to the madness. Pain and suffering sometimes makes us into better people, for sure you won't be making comments like that to someone else, and I think it makes us appreciate what's really important in life.
But that's not the reason that Emerald died. Sometimes it's just the luck of the draw, I feel like Steven has been drawing the short straw since he was born, but then again he's still with me, and Emerald isn't with you.
I started going to a monthly group of adults from my church, sometimes it makes me feel better because I realize nobody really has the answers, we're all struggling and we're all searching. If we are to find those answers, I'm pretty sure it won't be in this world.
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